Choosing Humility Over Self-Interest

Humility lies at the heart of Christian relationships. It does not mean thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less. Jesus modeled this perfectly—though He possessed all authority, He chose the path of servanthood. His humility invites us to lay down personal agendas for the sake of love and unity.

In moments of tension or disagreement, humility is often the first virtue to disappear. We become focused on defending ourselves, protecting our reputation, or proving our point. Yet Scripture reminds us that true spiritual maturity is marked by a willingness to consider the needs and perspectives of others.

Humility allows space for growth—both in ourselves and in others. It acknowledges that we are all works in progress, shaped by God’s grace over time. When we approach relationships with humility, we create an environment where restoration, learning, and reconciliation can take place.

Practicing humility strengthens relationships and reflects the heart of Christ to a watching world. It reminds us that our ultimate goal is not to win arguments, but to glorify God through love.

Scripture:
Philippians 2:3 - Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;

Application:
Choose one relationship where you will intentionally put the other person’s needs first this week. Pray before difficult conversations, asking God for a humble heart. Look for ways to serve without seeking recognition.

Prayer: 

Jesus, You humbled Yourself for my sake. Teach me to walk in that same humility. Help me release selfish ambition and see others through Your eyes. Shape my heart so that my relationships reflect Your love and grace.